When I got told at age 43 I have Bipolar, I was like ... Hey but wait , yeah this kinda makes sense when I did XYZ in the past.

Honestly I accepted it really quickly, I did my own research and realized that Yep Bipolar fits.

Bipolar can just plain suck! But it gave me a place to start, A place to begin in Therapy that would explain things, identify where and what I needed to address first, learn coping skills, find my triggers and how to avoid them and know what to do if I'm in the middle of one.

If "Bipolar" is too big of a word/diagnosis/label to digest right now, why not just focus on treating whatever symptoms your struggling with. Maybe that could be a way to nudge your husband into dealing with some things.

Men are usually slow to accept that there is something just not right, but refuses to take it by the horns and just deal with it.

Meanwhile you need to take care of yourself mentally and physically. Maybe it would be wise for you to see a therapist to help guide you through his refusal to see how his actions could be affecting your relationship.

Welcome to PC