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Old Dec 29, 2014, 05:50 AM
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Originally Posted by Hooligan View Post
Interesting thought!

I rely on my T for guidance and as a bouncing board for things I'm thinking of doing.

Mine is also gone over this break and I must admit there have been times when it's crossed my mind and I've thought I wish I could tell my TtT ....

But.

Overall I'm okay having this break. It makes me an independent decision maker. So far so good.

I think T are aware of the impact they have. It's a positive reward when they see progress in clients. Remember they're not our "friend", theyre a professional confidant.

I'd consider changing your strategy.

How about instead of "demanding" answers, give your T a compliment. Let him/her know that the9break has made you realise what a positive impact they have on your life.
I guess I should have explained the "demanding" was meant as a joke or tongue in cheek...it is not the sort of relationship I have with my therapist.

Hmmm.....I let my therapist know how he helps me from time to time. And I dont really see him to help me make decisions in my life, I am comfortable making my own choices. I go to therapy to understand my emotional experience of life, to work through trauma, and develop better relationship with myself and others, because so much trauma left me completely closed off to both my feelings & emotions and people due to fear.

I guess am just feeling a bit abandonned.......and this leads me to wonder if they do know......

And yes..thank goodness they are professionals and not friends....no way could I do this with a friend. Nor would I want my therapist as a friend!
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