I agree with SD: it's not always worth the risk.

But if it's what you really want and you're aware of the risks, it can be very beneficial.

I think I do very well with being authentic and genuine. But I do struggle with verbalizing anything to do with my attachment and feelings towards her. For me, it feels so humiliating. In my mind, an adult shouldn't need validation, care, nurturing, and reassurance from another person. I also feel it's inappropriate to love someone who isn't family. Logically, I know that's not the truth, but I still feel that way.I feel this way too because of my wounds from childhood. I did not get enough care or nurturing. As my t says, if I did I wouldnt be in therapy or feeling the way I am now, which really validated my feelings

Last week, I finally opened up to my T about my attachment. She already knew because I've emailed her about it and have commented on it indirectly. But this was the first time I out right said it. It was so difficult, but I needed to do it. I felt my attachment was getting in the way of my progress. I found it worth it. We discussed many aspects: what it would look like if I pushed her away, what would it look like if I gave into my "neediness", would she "punish" me or take away things like hugging, how she gets reassurance from her relationships, etc. She also told me that the attachment is not getting in the way of my progress; it is actually my core issue I need to me working on.Wow, well done Scarlett. That's amazing, you took a big risk and boy, was it worth it. I bet you feel a relief? This is where I want to get. Your T sounds very skilled in the attachment area.

But it all takes time. I have discovered that I'm the type of person who jumps into things too quickly. So far it has worked out, so I guess I was ready. But even for me, I have taken stpes along the way. And the course seems to be a natural course; the topics flow and relate, and gradually it gets deeper into the more difficult issues.

Try to be patient with yourself. When you're ready, you'll do it.