Adele, I think it would really help you to get a social circle around you and make some friends. Right now it seems to me that you're stressed because you have so much emotional investment in this guy. There's nothing wrong with being close with someone you care about but this person cannot meet all of your emotional needs. What if you need to b**ch about him to someone? Wouldn't it be great to have a few friends you can hang out with when things with him hit a rough spot. Even the most wonderful relationships can hit rough spots and a social circle helps put your stuff in perspective.

Anyway, I wouldn't worry about how he will react to your last phone conversation until you have a talk with him. There is no point obsessing about it until you two talk again face to face. Meanwhile, don't sit at home like a potted plant! You need to have your own life for your own sanity. And don't throw the baby out with the bath water. Just because this guy is not for you that doesn't mean that love isn't worth it. There's only so much you can control. Just let it go and concentrate on what you will be doing for the next little while. What if you get so involved with some activity that you even forget about the phone call? In three weeks, it may not seem so stressful and you can tell him how hurt you felt about his ultimatum. It sounds like both of you have these extreme reactions. There is a middle way that doesn't involve breaking up over every hurtful thing said. Sometimes people don't think and say stupid things because they feel scared and threatened. Good luck!