SecretGarden, I think just being aware of it can help. For example, when you are talking with someone and ready to give a response to their situation, perhaps just pause to see if you are genuinely responding to what they have shared with you or if you are projecting something on them that you are feeling from another situation.

I feel that recently I have been the recipient of projection from many people in relation to my marriage/divorce. It is hard to tell friends and family about the problems in my marriage and that we are headed toward divorce because immediately people start projecting their crap onto me from their own failed relationships. If they were in a bad situation in the past, they right away start calling my husband a creep and urge me to take him to the bank for all that he is worth in the divorce settlement. That is not what I am about at all. And it wounds me to have people immediately react that way to my situation. When my husband and I began openly talking about divorce just recently, my advice to him was do not ask advice from people who have been divorced, because they will try to turn your situation into the negative one that they went through.

A way that I project onto people right here on PC is based on my own psychotherapy experience. For example, I feel the client should determine the course of each session, choosing the topic, etc., and I am strongly advocating for that all the time, perhaps too strongly! I need to realize that in some therapeutic approaches, this is not the way it goes and the T is more directive, and I need to not post so strongly that it seems like any other way is "wrong." I need to work on that!