Hi everyone,
My 14 yr old daughter haas depression and anxioity. I feel horrible for thinking what I am but I cannot help it. I am even stalling typing it as I open with this but here goes...
With 3 doctors and 2 in patient hospital visits and the doctors there, I have never been able to voice how I am feeling. I have given everything I can think of for my daughter. I am on FMLA to be home with her. I do everything I can to make her life easier. She needs something I get it for her, I have been trying to help her get caught up in school(she has not had a full week since the year started) and I have changed my ways to make home life easier on her.
Now i feel like a door mat/slave. She will not do any chores, I ask and ask and it never gets done. I even give her timeframes so she knows its coming. She will not help out at all and when I ask she says I am yelling, yet I have not raised my voice in 3 months ( as an Italian New Yorker that took a real effort but I did it). She gets very upset and tells me I am making her depression worse when I have to say no to her. She gets upset if I do not do something or tell her I wont do something for her. I have tried inserting consequences for not doing chores or really anything asked and she gets so upset I fear she will try to hurt herself. She never cleans up after herself ( that is not an exaggeration) it is always me.
I have tried to talk to her about this and she gets all upset and says she is a horrible person and doesn't deserve to live.
How can I get her to even put her plate in the sink with out a blow up, or explain to her that I should not have to come upstairs to her room to get her something that is 5 feet away. How do I tell her that she does not seem to care about my feelings at all whith out fear of a suicide attempt.
Am I being selfish ?