Maybe just maybe both of you are not really hearing each other. Sometimes we interpret what our spouse is saying when clearly it isn't what they mean. You can start with I heard what you are saying is this what you mean? And after you talk ask him to tell you what he heard. (example: you say: there are always dirty dishes in the sink. I'm too tired to.wash them now. He hears: you don't ever do any housework and I always have to do everything) clearly that's not what was meant but its what was heard. If that doesn't work then counseling may help, if your husband doesn't communicate well and doesn't like confrontation may be part of a larger issue. Maybe a dealing with his past (maybe a momma issue). Good luck. You can definitely work through this