What I try to find is common ground'

EX
we share a house
living together is all we can afford living apart would be too expensive.
the kids would suffer in a divorce
maybe we could try therapy
why did I get with him in the first place
could I go to therapy and have someone help me sculpture a life for myself.
am i able to support myself or do I depend on him?
how alone would I be without him?
how much would that hurt me?

You see how many things are unknown. I would want to be able to answer all these questions and find more. Divorce is a final act. There are midway points that could induce a healing.

A professional's help can be valuable.