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Old Dec 30, 2014, 04:26 AM
Rainydaiz Rainydaiz is offline
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Originally Posted by Simmering View Post
I think it depends on what each of you want from the relationship. If she wants children and you don't, that's a biggie (or vice versa). Sometimes people get caught up in the newness of a relationship thinking they have met their soulmate but in reality that is not the case. They are just projecting qualities they want in a partner to the person they have met without realizing it. Sex may be great now but what if life circumstances change for one of you (menopause, women troubles, etc.) and the hormones are no longer in full swing? Will that change the relationship for you? It's hard to think realistically when you are embroiled in the height of a romance. If you have differences in what you expect from your partner (in everyday life) such as going out with friends, family, participating in hobbies. These should be considered in planning a future together. Don't underestimate the importance of little things like caring for one another when sick or if either of you are bringing children into the mix. There is much to consider.
You could argue that you need to consider these things in any relationship. My husband and I have been together 10 years now.(21 years difference) My ex boyfriend who was the same age as me died very suddenly and unexpectedly. I would have had less time with him than I have already had with my husband. I think for me, no matter what happens with my husband, the time I have had with him now will be worth it. There are no guarantees in life, and I'm so much happier with him than without him. And vice versa. Children etc we could have done if we'd had IVF but I'm not that maternal anyway. It does depend on each individual case I think.