I have understood part of my rages are extreme fatigue. I may not even feel it because I'm always pushing through. And I don't listen to my body because I've sort of been trained not to do it. Sometimes my mind is not feeling tired because it is so busy so I miss how terribly tired I am.

I can snap into rages because triggers but also I need to be quite tired for it to happen. Then I don't have much control over impulses and strong emotions. I've recently understood that the main thing for me to prevent this is rest. Which I had to work for, because people think I'm lazy anyway... Sometimes I have to look through the last days to actually understand I need the rest, I have been very busy or stressed or slept too little etc to even see it.

If I know I am tired and on the verge of a rage, it can diffuse it some if I accept that I'm probably very worn down. I can tell myself to postpone the reaction to after I rest. I know... not easy.

I'm not saying any of this is true in your case, but I wanted to share anyway in case something rings a bell.