It sounds like there's a ton more going on here than just some shallow women you've met. Which you have.

By your own admission, you work hard, struggle and training. You're pushing and will get pushed back. Then you develop resentment and that resentment shows causing a further rift.

I think "giving up" right now really is the best idea. You need to take a step back, quit trying so hard and see women for who they are; each an individual with their own flaws and quips. No different than any of us.

Let the bitterness and anger and resentment go. Take time to breathe and then instead of trying hard with this method or researching that trend. Be you, learn to be comfortable with yourself and then get to know women before using a shotgun approach. The best partners are good friends so I would start there and let relationships grow from that friendship.