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Ipse_Dixit said:
i'm not sure i understand "projection" entirely. what is "projection"? I have used the term myself...but moreso thought it was similar to transference.

my Therapist used to say something to the effect: "you can't make people upset or angry or hurt....they get upset or angry or upset because of something in them." she may have been more refering to me as a 16 year old relating to older people...or just me in general as a child relating to my parents or other parental figures.

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Hi there Ipse... Thanks for your response.... I do not think that projection is involved in your situation but I am unsure...

I think that as we mature we realise that .... and this is big... it is our choice to feel as we do... (I am still not always good at this) but it is our responsibility to take care of ourselves. No one can make you feel any way and you likewise should not be able to make others feel a certain way. That is not always easy and it does not mean you can run roughshod over someone.

I think that a fine example of this is some of the posts here about people being angry at their T's and letting them have it. The T recognises the anger for what it is... perhaps transference or perhaps a really bad day.

The hope is that with increased therapy, insight and strength that we can be independent in thought and be responsible for your own feelings... and not others or even thinking that someone else caused you to feel so and so.

It is one of those things that is progressive and something we learn bit by bit.

Hmmmmm..... there are some similarities... but I do not think the same thing.

Transference is when you, for instance, get mad at your T or someone because they remind you of someone else from your past or now even that has made you angry. In my case I had a transference with my T on things about him that reminded me of my dad that were not pleasant. So, I could work through my emotions toward my dad through my therapist/pdoc.

Transference can be many things and also can be positive or negative emotions or healthy or not healthy.

Projection ... which I am asking about so I am trying to learn more is a matter of projecting feelings or emotions. I may project or accuse or make note of someone feeling a certain way and actually those are my feelings that I have said someone else has. This is what I want to know more about. Will respond more to Sister's post as I get my thoughts together... or questions. :-)

Hope that makes sense.