You sound like you are going through a lot right now. Hopefully your have a therapist who you can talk to and discuss all that is going on in your life. Either way I found that if I acknowledged the alter who was present and asked them what they were doing, most times they would tell me. Especially the little ones. The one who is crying and causing you such distress is in distress herself. Sometimes just asking her why she is crying, and reminding her that she is safe, helps her to calm down. Than at some point you and her may be able to communicate without her being in such an emotionally painful state. Talking to my alters, even the ones who wanted to hurt the body, has helped us to agree to try to keep every one safe. After all that is what we have always wanted, to be safe. If you don't have a therapist you may want to look into finding one. There are a lot of free mental services available in many communities that are also confidential given you age. I wish you luck. You are already doing the right thing by talking about what you are experiencing. Take care.