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Old Dec 30, 2014, 11:48 AM
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Originally Posted by guilloche View Post
I just don't know that I'm getting anything from this. I tried. He seems like a fine person. It's just... I don't really see much of a point to me being in therapy.
I think it's very normal to feel like this at points along the therapeutic "journey" and I would really encourage you to start talking to your T about this in just the way you put it here, "I'm not clear about what I am getting from therapy and I don't know what the point of therapy is right now."

It may be that you come to realize that it's time to stop therapy, or take a break, and my guess is that if that is what you want your T will support you in this (not abandon you or want you to quit, those are very different).

But it also might be that these feelings are coming from somewhere else that point you towards where you need to go, and I think T's are particularly skilled at having these kinds of conversations.

It might be scary to raise this, but in my experience of having this conversation around half a dozen times with different therapists, it has felt to me that I learned so much about myself from talking about these issues. In a way, raising these questions is an example of asking for help from a T, help in figuring out where you're going in therapy. That's a difficult issue for me to deal with-- I like to be all independent-y-- but I've learned that reaching out for help from my T ends well.

Good luck.
Thanks for this!
guilloche