Thank you.... That made total sense...

Now... what if you decided to fill in her blank (need for tears) with one of those options. Why would that happen. Would you have been fulfilling a need withinn yourself? It could be valid or not and without her telling you....as you said... you would not know.

What is the purpose of making an assumption (if you had) ...

You were able to not do that as you had kept yourself and her experience separate. I commend you on being able to do that.

Would it have been painful if you had assumed and would you be avoiding that pain. ... really stretching it here... Just interested in this. No need to respond really. I just ask. These are the questions I think of.

Need I say....I know you are not asking for this... not projecting this desire but I am sorry to hear what you are going through. I wish you the best or wish you peace which would be my hope.

Thanks for sharing.