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Originally Posted by Echos Myron
You don't have to be part of the LGBT community just because you are gay. You don't have to be or act a certain way and your sexuality doesn't need to define you or even play a huge role in your life.
Instead of focussing on what you perceive as a negative trait, maybe you and your T can look at the things in your life that you feel positively about. If you work on your self esteem more generally, perhaps you won't be so focussed on your sexuality, which is such a tiny part of who you are as a person.
My T says that 'the whole' is worth so much more than the sum of its parts. He is right - you are so much more than just your sexuality.
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Really? Sorry, but my experience has shown that none of the above is true. Even if you don't act gay or have gay friends, people still label and alienate you. You're not able to talk about the intimates in your life - like others talk about their spouses and families - because you have no one. You still encounter prejudice too because others can't tell if you're a practicing gay or not - they just see you as gay.
Sexuality is a HUGE part of one's life and defines you to others who judge accordingly. It affects your spirituality, where you live, whether you're hired and, if so, whether you're promoted and given raises, it's a source of gossip and determines whether people even want you as a friend. No amount of self-esteem can help me deal with being gay. If you were gay, you'd know just how ruthlessly cruel the world can be.