Um...felt a need to edit it....confidentiality reasons...

You ask what is the purpose of making an assumption? For me right then and there there was no need. Therefore I did not make assumptions.

Yes, I think I kept our experiences separate and I am glad I was able to do that.

You ask, ''would it have been painful if you had assumed and would you be avoiding that pain...really stretching it here..'' I am interested in what you mean by assuming and thus avoiding the pain. I'm not getting it. Coudl you explain in other words?

Oh, and thanks for your best wishes. Doesn't smack of projection....lol...