I think what I was saying is that while yes indeed there were all these possibilities....I wasn't going to assume which of them was the reason for her tears.

The real reason I wasn't going to assume...is because only she can define herself. By assuming I am defining her experience. Only she can define her experience. She knows the reason for her tears. Yet she chose not to put it out in the open. I can respect that. Probably because I have learned to respect myself. I see her as separate. Imposing my assumptions would be an invasion of her psychic space.