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I like the idea that my feelings are my feelings but unfortunately I have had others say that are inaccurate in terms of what I am thinking. So if indeed if I am projecting ... what is the role of that ... the pain or not being able to handle the emotions or take responsibility of them myself? How embarrassing.

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Secret, I don't understand this. Do you mean tht people respond in a way so you know that what you said doesn't match what you are thinking? If so I get that. It happens to me also, a lot. But I don't think of that as projection. Projection may result but that's a mistmach between word and thought, or feeling and word.

*****It is a mismatch between my word (perception of their thought) and their actual thoughts.

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You said....."I would think that in order for her to be projected upon she must be a willing participant in the exchange--consciously or unconsciously."

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Well, what I mean is that she is not a screen or a corner of a room. She is a human and I think that when someone sends some stuff our way we can either reject or receive. Sometimes we receive unwittingly or unwillingly but receive nonetheless. It's not always a concscious action.

******true...

I think that in any interaction between people, it takes two to tango.

Maybe what happens is when you project and people reject the project they call you on it? However, it doesn't sound like that is the case in this particular interaction.

******* yes not with this particular interaction....

Peace

***** thanks..... :-)

Still much to think about but thank you so much....

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