Hi, quasar2He4, welcome to Psych Central!
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So my question is, do these sound like ADHD/ADD or am I just some lazy, ditzy, random, daydreaming girl?
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Another strong possibility would be "none of the above". You may or may not have ADHD/ADD but even if you get officially diagnosed with it, I hope you won't let the diagnosis distract you from continuing to look at and sort out what's going on for you.
You mentioned in another thread feeling guilty about being depressed -- or rather, about being depressed without a good enough excuse. I'd like to see you focus first on getting to the other side of your depression and only second, if at all, on whether somebody else would say you were entitled to feel depressed. Likewise here, if you keep finding yourself avoiding schoolwork, I'd like to see you focus first on what that's about for you and only second, if at all, on whether someone might decide you were "just some lazy, ditzy, random, daydreaming girl".
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She said something to the effect that nobody likes doing tedious work, but it has to be done and there is no way around it, and that I can focus if I really want to.
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She seems to be saying that you don't want to do the work because it's tedious (but that you should make yourself do it anyway). I guess I'm kind of a weirdo about things like that, but I'm used to looking at it the other way around. If I find something tedious, that's because I'd rather be doing something else instead. As soon as I discover that I really do want to do that thing I was finding tedious, it stops being tedious. Alternatively, I may discover that I really
don't want to do that particular thing -- so I stop doing it.
Once upon a time I was in school and for the most part, didn't enjoy it. I especially didn't like writing papers. I felt as if I had nothing to say, so my assignment had to be to say nothing skillfully enough to get a good grade. Later on I was sometimes surprised to find there were things I really did want to write about, and
those papers turned out to be fun to write. I don't know if I would ever have gotten to that point, though, without first struggling through all the other papers I hadn't wanted to write.
By the time I finished college, I knew I didn't like writing against deadlines. I also knew I was preparing for a career where I'd be doing a lot of writing against deadlines. I finally resolved that problem by switching to a career where I didn't have to write unless I felt like it.
I wish you the best of luck working out your issues with school, and I do hope you'll learn to go a little easier on yourself.
