I'm sorry your dealing with a family that just doesnt "get it" Bipolar is a very difficult thing to understand even for US that have it.. but to anyone else it's really hard.

Are you in Therapy ? If so is it possible for you wife to come to a session so your Therapist can help her understand how at times you really do not have 100% control of your mood. My Husband didnt really believe "it" until my T explained it to him in very straight forward blunt east to understand it. It made a huge difference.

I don't really talk much to my husband about my Bipolar, Unless I am in a bad place and he needs to know about it. Bipolar can if unchecked kinda take over a relationship if your not careful.. Do you know around what times of year you tend to deal with depression? If so maybe in the weeks maybe leading up to it get with your Pdoc and try to head the episode off before it becomes a huge problem. Also give your wife a heads up.

Are you using every single last coping skill you know? Are you letting your self care slide? It's had not to fall into the trap of " well if I had cancer or whatnot" you wouldnt be treated this way.. There is no real way to use the two as comparable.

I would invite your wife along for a session and actually it might benefit her to see a Therapist on her own..it is tough living with a Bipolar spouse and she needs to learn how to mentally stay healthy herself.

Work hard in finding more and more coping skills you can use. I hate to say but at times I just fake it til I make it.. Yeah It sucks soooooo much , but sometimes it does help me stay in control of my lousy times.

Welcome to PC You will find tons of people here that "get it" There is a Bipolar forum, great place to hang your hat and stay awhile.

I do know your first 5 posts need to be okay'd my moderators after than as soon as you hit submit your stuff will show right up .