Hello everyone,

I am a 29 year old guy originally from Singapore who is currently residing in Perth Australia for the past 8 years. I left home to pursue my tertiary education and I have just recently completed my master degree and looking for a job.

Throughout my undergraduate (4) years in university, I had a depressive and emotional relationship who I later learnt from my counsellor that she was exhibiting traits of Borderline Personality Disorder. Since then I was on my own coping and in recovery.

Six months after I had recovered from my depression, I reconnected with a high school friend from Singapore. She emailed me out of the blue and we started corresponding. Back in high school, we got along really well. Through her messages, I learnt that she had recently ended a six year relationship because her fiancée cheated on her. We started chatting being mindful of jumping into a rebound relationship because of our similar situations. We even told our own counsellors that we were seeing back then about this blossoming relationship.

Fast forward to present day, we had a fabulous 3.5 years of long distance relationship. We travelled and visited each other often and also travelled to other destinations for holidays.

I have now completed my master degree and I am looking for employment. Ten days ago, she told me that she does not have the intention to migrate to Australia because of the lack of a similar job and dread the change in lifestyle as Perth is very different from Singapore. And I also understand she is daunted by the lack of social support if she migrates to Australia.

I am heart broken and clueless and lost. She is also feeling horrible and upset about making me feel this way. We still chat online and express our feelings and love for each other.

Should I move back home and give the relationship another chance? Or should I let go of my soul mate and be on my own. I do feel lonely as I do not have family or relatives in Australia.

I am not sure what to do. The geographical location is such a big barrier in our relationship.

I am happy to hear other thoughts.

Thank you for reading.

-T