My adult son who's at uni has come to stay with me over Christmas - and he's now told me that he's here to see his friends who are local. He more or less told me that he doesn't care so much about seeing me - to be honest I'm blanking out what he's told me because I'm stressed over it - and that happens when I'm stressed.

He's just sitting in the living room on the internet constantly and gets very cross with me when I try to talk to him. He said that we've never had a good relationship - he said that his dad (who mainly cared for him) was a wonderful father.

I said to him that I felt sad that I hadn't been there more when he was growing up and said it sounded like he was angry and that I would like to hear what he said and that we could go to see someone together if he wanted. He got angry and said that he would never see a psychiatrist - I told him that I didn't mean a psychiatrist.

I know that I've made some crappy mistakes and been absent a lot - which has been a lot to do with having a mental illness and breaking up from his dad.

However, I'm finding this really difficult. I told him that I didn't want to push him away because I cared so much about him, but that I wondered why if he felt like that he didn't stay at his dad's. He said he was here because his friends were nearby.

Sometimes he can say thing which seem quite scathing.

Help.