View Single Post
 
Old Dec 31, 2014, 11:27 AM
gayleggg's Avatar
gayleggg gayleggg is offline
Legendary Wise Elder
Community Liaison
 
Member Since: Apr 2013
Location: Texas
Posts: 26,619
Quote:
Originally Posted by baseline View Post
lol!
My mother has always been obsessed with my hair. It's a control thing!!! Everyone else compliments me. But I feel like I don't deserve it for some reason. Lots of emotional/physical abuse over the years. Hard to know truth from lies. I can't take compliments from my T and I've told him. Not that he is untrustworthy just makes me feel uncomfortable! Strangers act more loving to me than my own mother. She has always said that I would be hurt by friends/strangers. Always making me paranoid about others being too nice! I hated /hate living that way. I don't want to be this way. Like I should only believe her compliments.
I'm really sorry your mother is so critical and has left you feeling you don't deserve compliments. Shame on her.

Looks like you have received some really good advice from others here. I've never gotten used to compliments either. My mother was very nurturing but my dad was the one that was critical. But it wasn't until I started to school that I began to feel like I was not as smart, as pretty or as good as everyone else. Peer pressure really took its toll on me.

Realize your mother has her own baggage, because there is a reason she is so critical and it's not because of anything you are or have done. Try to find your strong points, (and I know you have some, everyone does) and when you feel undeserving keep those in mind. Find your yourself, like the way you fix your hair even if your mom doesn't, it's okay if she doesn't agree. You are worth it.

__________________
Bipolar I, Depression, GAD Meds: Zoloft, Zyprexa, Ritalin

"Each morning we are born again. What we do today is what matters most." -Buddha
Hugs from:
baseline
Thanks for this!
baseline