<font color="#880000"> My boyfriend seems to have it all: Brains, personality, and looks.

When asked about what he wants from life, he says otherwise respectable things...: A good job, and money.

But, during our year and a half long relationship, I discovered that while he is persuing a career, he does not plan on finding happiness, growth, maturity, or openness. In fact, not only does he believe happiness doesn't exist, he has often said that he cannot be happy. [Depression?]

He's very career focused, almost to the point of centering his life around it, which says that he has many excellent traits. But, he seems to have no desire for the whole "life fulfillment" thing. [....Depression?]

I could understand why he'd be soley career focused during this time in his life, since he's is making a tough decision between a career or grad school now...

But, somehow it doesn't seem fair that he does not value [or plan to value] things we're suppose to experience in a relationship such as growing, learning, exploring, or being happy......Yet he still wants to be in a relationship.

I've brought this up with him many times before....I've tried to explain my point of view, but he seems completely unable to comprehend it. I mean, men tend to not be into this kind of thing anyway. Maybe I'm nuts?

So....Is this [another] something we have to work through, or is it a sign of worse things to come? We've had a rather rough relationship, and I oftentimes wonder if I have anymore patience left for this kind of attitude......</font>