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Originally Posted by elin95
Im sure this is the time to let her go. Want to make a fresh start in 2015. If i dont let her go now, when will I ever? Dont want to let this haunt me till the day i die. Its time to stop whining.
I made a list with triggers, things that make me daydream and think about her again.
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I think those are the main triggers. Ofcourse I have all these memories that randomly pop up in my head but i just have to block it. I'm not sure how I will fix it but I have to
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Have you tried the paradoxical approach to this?
Set aside a period of time every day, such as 30 or 60 minutes.
Allow yourself to indulge your obsession for this time and this time only.
If you find your thoughts drifting back to the object of your obsession outside of the prescribed time, remind yourself that now is not the time to be thinking of this, you have your "obsession time" scheduled at another time during the day.
During the time you have set aside, you can write, fantasize, etc, but you must only do so during the time you have scheduled.
It may take a few tries to get it dialed in, but I have witnessed good success with this strategy. It's right out of the Jay Haley playbook on ordeal therapy.