yeah, i agree with the sentiment that it takes some time for them to figure out what we need / want. i remember posting about my therapist saying that i wish he would shut the hell up and LISTEN instead of trying to offer interpretations when he really didn't know me very well and where he was still getting to know me.

i felt like there was a very real disconnection there and i wasn't sure whether things would work out or not. things are going much better now, though. just took some time.

could you possibly... tell her that you find it helpful if she asks you questions to try and help draw the answer out of you rather than attempting to offer her answer? if i've understood you right... thats fairly much exactly how i feel about it too. i mean sometimes i get stuck and need a little help. but othertimes the answer is within me somewhere and its really about them helping facilitate that and maybe stepping in if i'm way off base (though of course it will take a while for them to start to see repeating patterns / themes and the like in order to say sensible and enlightening things).

time...

i think it is amazing that you shared that dream :-)

yay you :-)

some clients... feel kinda helpless... and need to idealise. in that case... the clients can feel really very reassured if the therapist seems to have all the answers and read their mind (e.g., say something that was exactly what the client was thinking). she might be used to working with people who need to do that so it might take a little bit for her to see that you are different.

hang in there.