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Originally Posted by seraphic
I suspected that might be the case with her boyfriend. I'm not sure why (maybe just from my own experience), but I got the sense that she had trouble with her relationship beyond just distance. There could be a lot of things happening - normal relationship drama, her realizing she doesn't want to be with him, him pulling away from her, I don't know what's going on for you friend, but she's probably as confused as you are with all this.
It's totally ok to pull back if you feel like this is hurting you or too much to deal with. Whatever is happening, it's not your fault. At some point the burden is on her to figure out what she wants and needs, but if I had to go with my gut (again, going off similarities to things I've been through) I'd say it'll take a while for that to happen. Make sure to take care of yourself too! And best of luck.
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Well, we talked. There is no more elephant in the room...Well ok, it's there but it's being recognized now. The cool thing about our friendship/relationship/whatever it is, is that we're generally feeling the same things or are on the same page. So everything I said to her, she felt exactly the same. Just as I described feeling emotionally attracted to her, not wanting a sexual relationship, she said the same thing.
Actually, she apologized to me. She said that she had to figure out what she wanted and "get her *stuff* together". We both acknowledged that we've moved beyond friendship into something else. And I told her that I was just concerned about interfering with her relationship with her boyfriend. And I was extremely honest and said that I felt like in a way, like we were having an emotional affair, thus cheating on him in a way. And she said she agreed with that.
So I guess now it's just waiting on her. And to be honest, I don't have any expectations for what will come now, but I just know that I feel a whole heck of a lot less crazy and alone.