For me, projection can be as simple as using "you" instead of "I". One can't tell another person what they are feeling, it just cannot be done! We don't know what another person is feeling unless the other person tells us. I remember when my T and I got into it about her empathy, I think it was; I thought I was the one who was supposed to say whether I felt empathized with but aparently not :-)

I think we can give our observations but they have to be about us. "I feel. . ." or "It looks to me like. . ." but the next word after the . . . cannot be "you" and if the other person doesn't find our observations useful, there's nothing more (useful :-) to be said.