To be fair, it is a turn of phrase he's used more than once, but in that context it stung a bit. My response was 'I don't have to own that right now'.
Yeah it's such a slap in the face when they go on about their real family. My T does that a lot. He also said "Your narrative is just great, you should write a book. If you did, I'd read it in a breath" All I took from that was 'We will still be in touch in the future, so I would know that you had written a book and I could read it'. I know that wasn't the point of the comment but that's what I wanted to hear I suppose. Mixed messages don't help the transference but I'm not sure they are always even aware of what messages they are sending.
It sounds like we have quite similar scenarios going on. PM me if you ever want to chat