Hey there, Alwayschanging.
Everyone's system and everyone's mix of dissociation is what it needed to be for them. Yours is what it needed /needs to be for you. There is no need to justify it to anyone (and neither should anyone expect you to!).

I can relate to what you're saying. I used to let my younger alters out to have positive experiences, including play and time with the T. I used to get treats and presents for the little ones all the time. I am mostly integrated now, so this doesn't happen in the same way anymore. For what my opinion is worth, I think it is a GREAT thing to let child alts have time to play. For me it was a huge part of my healing process.

I do not need to justify my own experiences or my own diagnoses for any other posters here. I don't need to explain my level of co-consciousness, how many years I was in therapy, the extent of my abuse history, how my system worked, or how I was able to 'let them out' - to anyone.

If those ex-littles were around now they would poke out their tongues at all those nay-sayers out there and tell them to 'go suck eggs!' :P