Yes, I think you to some extent can do this to distract yourself. Of course itīs a individual matter, I donīt dismiss what you say. Some things works for some people and not for others.
I agree with the dwelling thing, too much could prolonge the mourning. Iīve missed my T for a couple of months now and I think it partly has to do with that Iīm still without a new T.
Do you speak a lot about your former T with your new T? What does your new T say/do when you speak about your former T? What does he or she suggest if anything? Do you feel you miss your former T less when you got into therapy with your new T?
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Originally Posted by Clementine K
Coincidence that you posted this. I haven't seen T for the past few weeks and with the holidays I too feel a longing and crave closeness.
One of my resolutions for the New Year is to try to think a lot less about therapy and get my mind unstuck on T1/T2. I'm practicing re-directing my thoughts. Whenever I think about therapy and T in a way that makes me anxious or unhappy, I focus on my husband and children. I'll remember the happiest times with them such as the children's births, birthday parties, and Christmas mornings. You could also focus on a favorite movie or TV show. Funny parts are probably the most effective! The important thing isn't what the happy memory is, but shifting mental gears. Though something can be said for a proper grieving period and acceptance of feelings, excessive dwelling can be really destructive. That's sort of where I'm at right now. Since this is a resolution, there's still a lot of work I need to do 
I hope this helps, and I'm so sorry you are hurting. I'm still raw after terming with T1 and it's been over 6 months, so you're in good company.
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