Hi JustNeedAnEar
I read your post and it is a frustrating situation for sure. I am glad that you vented. Could you see a therapist for yourself? It would be a great way to vent to someone and get some constructive feedback. It sounds like you are a devoted mother and sometimes mom's just feel worn out. You sound worn out. Please seek help through a therapist or your friends. Call them and take walks if you are able and get some of your frustrations out. I really feel for you.
I wish I had better answers but there are always solutions. I hate that you feel trapped. many

for you