My anxiety disorder began manifesting itself 8 years ago. This is also when a traumatic divorce was occurring with the family. Constant verbal fights on a nightly bases for years that would sometimes turn physical (she was the aggressor, not my father). I couldn't protect myself or those I cared about, I felt shaken and helpless constantly. The stability I felt in the home and the love from my mother was gone. She put her children at risk in multiple ways that I do not wish to go into detail about right now.
I recall many nights being very young (when things were actually still good) and having to be her mother instead of her being my mother. When things were really bad she shut me out completely, ignoring me and causing emotional wounds that took years to heal. She never apologized.

I just read an article about daughters with unloving mothers. It listed several traits that I can relate to.
1. Lack of confidence
2. Lack of trust
3. Difficulty setting boundaries
4. Difficulty seeing the self accurately
5. Making avoidance the default position
6. Being overly sensitive
7. Replicating the mother bond in relationships

I can answer yes to all of these. It also seems like all the symptoms of my anxiety disorder when it manifests itself. Avoidance. No confidence. Lack of trust. Difficulty seeing the self accurately, these all sound very familiar. This isn't about blame, I'm trying to get to the bottom of why I struggle so much in my life and why it all occurred around the same time.

Is my anxiety disorder really because of the terrible relationship I had with my own mother all those years?

How many of you out there who have anxiety disorder, struggled with a parent who was emotionally unavailable or abusive?

If it is a parental or development issue, is it possible to heal from completely?
I think my anxiety is in essence a learned behavior that I have hidden behind for quite some time now.