Even if this feels embarrasing to us as clients the feelings around our T:s are a prerequisite for a therapy that really "works". A way to open up about this could be to take a somewhat theroretical stance to it, to say you´ve read/heard about maternal transference and that you could acknowledge yourself in such a process.
You don´t have to go straight into talking about your "childish needs" but instead wait and see what your T says if you bring the issue up out of a more self-distant perspective.
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Originally Posted by jenny55
I've recently told my T that I have some issues along these lines that I need to discuss, but how do I actually tell her? Has anyone else had that conversation (or written it down) to tell their T that they remind you of what you wish you could have in your own mum or that you wish they could fill this role in your life.
I have no idea where to start to tell her this. I would prefer to write it down because I know I will not be able to say it, but I have no idea where to start without sounding pathetic/needy etc.
Any ideas on how to say this in a way that is not so embarrassing that I can never go back?
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