I found the book "Running on empty" underneath a pile on my bed and it looks like i already read it, but i dont remember it. I finished the last few pages of it last night. She talked about counter-dependence (like we need another buzzword?!) by which she means our wanting to get OUT of therapy, that other people are more deserving, that once we do the least little thing right we should be done, that we should be done by now, etc etc etc. She said that the work of the emotionally neglected in therapy is pretty much just to STAY in therapy. I was like, wow. I gotta read this book from the beginning now again.