An outside adult trying to talk to your therapist actually looks bad on them, not you. Your therapist will see the manipulation that apparently your wife is so convinced over some issue, that she got mom involved to try to force a point. This will not work.

I wonder how much they are really seeing or hearing YOU. I was 43 before someone came into my life who really supported ME - not their own agenda.

When you get a personal therapist - not a couples therapist, they can help you uncover what you really want. Another way to do that is to really let yourself feel what you want. Not for anyone else, but for you.

Take this chance at it being a new year beginning day to begin anew with designing your life to become what you dream it to be. We only live once. Be kind, be fair - but also be honest with yourself.

Best of luck to us all.