Are you seeing a separate counselor for just yourself? I think that this would be very helpful. My counselor says he could never counsel my husband and I as a couple because he couldn't be objective since he has been seeing me individually. That's the first thing I would do, make sure I had someone that had no connection to the rest of my family.

As far as how I handle circumstances like these is I talk to my therapitst who usually offers helpful incite that helps me look at things out is my scope of things.

I would probably talk to my mother about how I felt when I found out she had called my therapist, of course, you would want to have you anger in check before doing this. And since I don't know your history with your mom it might be a bad idea. It's something I would bounce off my therapist and see what he thinks.

I, also, have the Serenity Prayer in several places to remind me that I'm not in control and that I can't control other people or their thoughts.

And if my therapist wasn't helping with these things and adding helpful information or suggestions I would find another one.

I hope that 2015 gets better for you. It is never any fun to be in the middle of a battle, even if it is a battle for your marriage. I hope things work out in a way you can find peace with whatever happens.