We had a little discussion this morning. Not too productive, but maybe a start. I have asked him to go 90 days without any alcohol. We both agreed that if he cannot accomplish this simple task, then he really does have a problem. We'll see where that goes. I appreciate everyone's input as well. Thank you so much for listening. As for my own therapist, I have gone recently, but I came to the point that I feel like I am just constantly complaining, but not doing anything positive about moving forward. I will look into the Alanon connection though. It might be helpful. I did go to a meeting once many (30?) years ago, when I had a boyfriend that I discovered drank way too much (a pattern for me?) but the easier solution then was to dump the boyfriend. Not so easy when kids and a life are involved. I will look for those resources in my area. Thanks again for listening and responding. It's tough to get through this when you feel like you are all alone.