Petra, have you spoken to him about the 'business relationship' comment? Were you able to tell him how angry you are? ... and about being constantly late? I don't know if I've misread your posts but it sounds pretty cruel to insinuate there's more to your relationship (talking about lunch etc), then knock you down by discussing his kids and his girlfriend. I find it really hard to stomach the idea of a therapist discussing his love for his kids and his dating life, to any client, let alone one who has disclosed strong feelings towards him.

I don't know what to suggest but if you do decide to take a break, please tell him why you're angry, because I think it will be important for you. I can certainly relate to feeling caught up in the obsession and feelings and wondering whether it's worth all the pain... I haven't come to a conclusion yet. With all that's written about ET, I'm starting to wonder whether anyone really gets it - I think it's very complex and multi layered and has potential for damage.