and maybe it's any deeper relatinoship, and not just about this one? just an idea to explore maybe.

I eat when I'm anxious, and when I first moved out on my own I was still in high school - very anorexic then, then onto bulemia....but now I'm heavier than I'd like - although my husband is understanding (and we're going on 18 yrs this summer), it's anxiety that drives my eating, not 'him' per sey.