I have a fear of abandonment- but I personally will never beg or ask someone not to go on vacation or to stay with me etc. I don't worry about stuff I can't control or what might happen. I figured if they want to stay in my life they will, regardless of stupid boundaries (I mean within reason) etc. if not then I have to let go and remember I AM WORTHY for someone to stay in my life. In a case with a therapist, I try not to get attach as I don't view them as important relationships in my life. It's purely a business or professional relationship that will end. If i do get attached, I detached and I invest time in real relationships. I also figure if the therapist really cares they be in my life, one way or another after termination. One did do this on her own accord before I was even attached to her. She is no longer my counselor , she is my mentor, I know a lot about her and that she love and cares about me as I do about her. If she ever (even tho she said she won't ) leaves, I'll be very hurt and sad but I also have amazing people in my life so I know I'll be okay. Btw I invested a lot of time, learning assertiveness skills etc prior to that I had no one !

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