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can you call and reverse the session set up? ask to make the first one for you and the second one couples? (could also check to make sure there aren't 6 other people scheduled at the same time... )

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Thanks for the ideas, ECHOES. Unfortunately, my husband can't make it to the second appointment so we have to either take the first one together or nada. Ha, ha about the 6 other people scheduled. So true! I'm actually a little excited to see who we meet in the waiting room tomorrow. Of course, one small problem with calling--my T doesn't answer phone calls!

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yeah, go. he'll help you work on working on it.

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I think you're right. Maybe I can go and just curl in a corner on the couch and let them talk. Maybe that would be better than nothing.... I think.

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Does couples therapy have to be every week? It seems like it's just too much right now...

Can T help you set the outcome goals in session?

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Thanks for the suggestions, sister. Couples sessions not so frequently sounds good to me, at least this week. A problem is being able to predict when we'll want a session or need one, because my T is so booked up you have to plan well in advance. I like the idea of T helping us to set the session goals. A problem I foresee is that my husband and I will have different goals. And I find it hard to go against him. So if T asks him what is your goal for this session, and he answers, I would just agree with whatever he says. Sigh...

I guess we are indeed going to the session tomorrow, because through inertia, I have done nothing to make alternative plans, such as calling T to cancel. I feel swept along by this. Kind of like bobbing around in a vortex of water, being drawn inexorably down the drain. Maybe my husband won't show up at the session tomorrow. [/fingerscrossed] It's kind of like whenever he goes away on business, I hope he never returns. That would just be so much easier.