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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel
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1. Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment.
2. A pattern of unstable and intense interpersonal relationships characterized by alternating between extremes of idealization and devaluation.
3. Identity disturbance
4. Impulsivity
5. Recurrent suicidal behavior, gestures, or threats, or self-mutilating behavior.
6. Affective instability due to a marked reactivity of mood
7. Chronic feelings of emptiness.
8. Inappropriate, intense anger or difficulty controlling anger
9. Transient, stress-related paranoid ideation or severe dissociative symptoms.
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Yes. I can actually think of several skills for each of the bolded ones that would be useful.
I can understand why they don't want you reading ahead. The workbook for the most part gives a summary of the skills and yet some of them, if you just read them, don't make complete sense and for others you can bring an interpretation to them that isn't accurate. Having someone walk through them is incredibly helpful for really getting what's being said.
One of the things I've appreciated about DBT is the positive attitude towards me. In my particular group, we were told at the beginning that the therapists running it believed we were doing the best we could with what we had. No judgments. In fact, that non-judgmental attitude is core to DBT. It's not falsely affirming, but when people have believed the worst about you, it's refreshing to have people believe the best even if you're a complete mess. I've felt incredibly safe myself because I don't have to self-disclose what I don't want to (and my unsafe behaviors aren't to be disclosed anyway), and my boundaries are respected in that. I've had weeks where I've shared homework and I've said, "I don't really want to go into details. This skill helped me ride out my urge to do my target behavior and I think it helped." or "I don't really want to go into anymore detail, but I had trouble with this skill. I tried it and I ended up doing my target behavior." Then usually I'll get some feedback, maybe some general clarifying questions about my skill use and often times at the very least a "Thanks for being willing to try."
I will say the skills aren't easy. It really does take time, but I do think they're worth it. Idk. It's like... it's like people my whole life would be like, "Just don't worry."
How the hell do you not worry? I didn't even grasp how to function with my high anxiety. It felt a lot like people telling me not to think of a pink elephant.
What DBT has done has helped me get more in touch with what I'm feeling so I'm aware of it and know how to function with it.
I'll avoid answering any specific skills/module questions but if you have general questions I can help there.
The important thing is to be willing. Even if you struggle through that, hell I still struggle with it, if you can go in with a sense of willingness to try try and try again, you'll get the most out of it.