That's a good point, maybe I'll just start with cat and see how that goes...
Brown owl, it was me that somebody gave that advice to, about 15 seconds of courage! That's what got me into this mess...

Thanks for all the help. I am still thinking I might just cancel next week though. I have never cried in front of t ( in fact I've only cried twice in the past three years) and I cannot do that, I cannot be that vulnerable.