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Thank you for your post. I actually commend you for making some tough decisions. Maybe you are growing up and moving away from the things that we used to do a lot of in high school. Some of us are able to move away from this behavior and for others it becomes a disease. It is hard to be around drinkers and even more so binge drinkers. This is what people established 12 step support groups for. This is why we have Alonon, ACOA, CODA and the like. Maybe your friend will grow out of this but if you don't want to wait around until she does, then you have every right to walk away. It is not possible to have a healthy relationship with someone who abuses a substance. They cannot be a good friend. I think you are smart to detach. In 12 step programs we call this detach with love. Many people in marriages with alcoholics have to do this. You will always be able to make new healthy friends. Maybe it is time to start new and make some healthy friends. The only person who you can control is yourself. You have no power over other people's addictions. I just think you are growing up and deciding to make good choices.