Well, unlike you, the first time was the last time for me. This guy won't even allow me to talk to him. I believe his exact words were "I'm done". I guess telling him you're going to end it all if he won't love you, then blowing up at his friends for telling him to step away from the "crazy lady", aren't the ways to his heart. LOL

Either way, I know it's a lost cause and I'm willing to accept it as that. My mind anyways. My heart keeps going back to the feelings he caused to well up inside me with the sweet words he said. However, like the age old saying goes..."There is no such thing as a man in shining armor, just a man in a tinfoil suit". What I'm trying to say, without generalizing too terribly much, is that a woman must be in charge of their own heart and happiness, and not believe a man can make them happy, or save them from their own demons.

At the time I wasn't thinking he could save me from my demons or anything, but now I realize he was never going to be serious. He never had plans to be. Not the kind of person I want to spend my time and energy on. Why waste time and energy on a guy if they don't have the same ideas and goals about a relationship? I guess he'll always be a flirtatious tease, and never want to settle down (I could go on calling him names and wallowing in my contempt and anger about the situation as well, but that's not doing anyone any favors either).

Now I'm going to be terribly cliche now, and despite how much I utterly despise platitudes, I will say this: You must be able to find your center, and be happy with yourself so that people, especially men (or women, as the case may be for you), will want to be near you and share in your happiness. It's happiness and joy that are the most attractive things about a person. Who would want to hang around a gloomy depressed person all day and be brought down by that gloomy disposition?

Okay, I've said enough. I'm going to just let my words sink in.