My T has never told me what to do and I would not like it if he did. He doesn't give me advice either, except very, very rarely. He sometimes suggests things but never in a way that makes me feel that I ought to do them because he says so. I may or may not follow his suggestions, and if I don't, he probably won't ever know so it makes no difference anyway.

With other people I always feel that I must do what they say so as not to hurt their feelings. I might not do whatever it is that they want, but if so, I will avoid telling them.