The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans saved my life. You need a plan for leaving. Find a therapist who understands verbal abuse. Read everything you can on the subject. Most abusers never change and they are excruciatingly insecure and will do and say anything to control you. It took me 31 years to leave. Verbal abuse is literally brainwashing; that is why it is so confusing and hard to leave. you can call the National Domestic Violence hotline or women's shelter for advice and help. Abuse is a CHOICE.

In other words, educate yourself as to what verbal (emotional) abuse is, and what it does to you (damages your immune system), find a good therapist, read the book I mentioned ...make sure you do it in private, because he will feel threatened that he may be using his verbal punching bag, realize that no one deserves abuse. You have turned your life upside down for him, but it will never be enough; they are bottomless pits...emotional vampires. you can google the "domestic wheel of violence" also. I know how difficult it is to leave, but it can be done and with some help and educating yourself you can leave the abuse and get your life back. Please stay in touch here, we all care. xoxo

P.S. he isn't staying with you because he cares about you; he is staying because he is immature, insecure and needs someone to control.

http://www.ncdsv.org/images/powercon...lnoshading.pdf