Dr Clay, I find it difficult to constantly use "I" statements. It seems that whenever I use them, some others think I'm being arrogant and a "know it all." If I can soften the statement by using: "perhaps it.." or something like "it seems that..". even though it is a personal experience, then it's taken as less offensive. People tend to assign anger to me, when I'm not feeling or thinking anger at all. I do try to use "imo" (in my opinion) or 'that's just my pov" to declare I realize that others might have different experiences or opinions, but still, some ppl insist I'm posting angrily or snobbishly. I guess they must also add agressiveness onto it? I think you know me well enough to judge me as not that way in general. How do I promote (without halo data) my generally good attitude and understanding spirit and not come across as angry or aggressive? ( I have to admit that a recent attack on my posting on something I truly do know about has dented my "ego" a bit.. .thus my declaration in my signature.)

In reviewing your statements about aggression, I don't fit into that at all. [Aggression: overly critical, fault finding, name-calling, accusing someone of having immoral or despicable traits or motives, nagging, whining, sarcasm, prejudice, flashes of temper.
3. Hurtful: malicious gossip, stealing, trouble-making.]